Posted on: 22nd of April 2006 | Under: Life & Love
I attended my last required seminar in school today - Tips for Marriage. Convenient and quite appropriate, you may ask? Well yes, actually. Not because I’m thinking of getting married just yet, but because as I was pretty much mistaken, the entire seminar wasn’t only about marriage after all. It was more of a guideline, really: some tips on mate selection, on how to handle relationships (happy moments, plus conflicts) and understanding our individual needs and the importance of satisfying those needs.
Despite having to sit from 8:00am to 3:30pm (with breaks in between, of course) and being sleepy throughout the entire time (I only had about an hour and a half of sleep!), I still enjoyed every minute of it. The highlight for me was learning…
The 5 Languages of Love:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Being Served
- Physical Touch
Each one of us have an innate need of feeling all 5 languages of love, but we also have a principal and distinct one that we need the most. That one language of love is what we need on top of everything else. Metaphorically speaking, we all have a “love tank” that needs to be filled up. We can fill it up to the brim with 4 of the 5 languages of love, but if the one we need most is not there, then there’s practically no use for all the other 4.
After a quick test that we did earlier, I found out that my principal language of love is none other than number 2 - Quality Time. It didn’t really come as a surprise to me, because I pretty much knew that already. I’m the type of person who needs to be given time. Time to spend together with friends and loved ones uninterrupted. Quality time when nothing will and should matter but the actual “spending time” together. I feel loved when those around me actually take the time to be with me: to talk to me, laugh with me and do things with me. I’ve known myself for being pretty demanding when it comes to asking for time from people around me. I know a big percent of that is a result and can be rooted to some of my family issues. Somehow, in one way or another, I’ve always felt quite selfish for being demanding with time. But, after the seminar, I realized that I’m not really being selfish at all. I’m just in need of filling up my “love tank” and Quality Time is what I need most to be able to do that. I just need Quality Time to fell loved fully.
I’m not a fan of long seminars, especially if I was merely just forced to attend in the first place. But, today’s seminar was different. I’m actually glad that I forced myself out of bed early, because I learnt to see myself from a whole new perspective today.
I finally understood a big part of me.
Anna. 25. 
April 22nd, 2006 at 6:49 pm
You gotta admit, the seminar name is a bit daunting. I guess it’s just the way I analysed it: you are a moment or two from graduating and then they give you tips on marriage instead of tips on the working world, so it does push you aside for a moment there, but as you said, it was a more generic seminar that makes you evaluate your relationships with your loved ones. =)
I am glad that you got something out of that seminar. I hope that you put it to good use. Then again, considering how long you have been with JR, I think you got it nailed long before. =D
April 24th, 2006 at 5:52 am
glad you got some interesting views from the seminar ^^ makes me curious as to what other *tips* for marriage they had, hehe! but yea, you’re not selfish ha, i think quality time is one of the least selfish items on that list! i can definitely see why you would want it, though =)
I MISS YOU!!! hoy, when do we initiate our next evil project?? hahaha … unfortunately, not that many available ‘customers’ for now… looks like many of our online friends have scattered around the net now =( huu…
April 26th, 2006 at 4:40 pm
why didn’t they give us those types of seminars instead?! I need quality time too haha!
It was good to see you again though we had to leave abruptly. some things never change talaga. send me our one and only pic for the night when you have time ok? take care! =)
April 28th, 2006 at 4:10 am
@ marz: well, i believe every relationship needs time and effort. who ever heard about a perfect relationship anyway, right? so yeah, no matter how long jr and i have been together, there are still a couple of things to work on… and i’m just glad that the seminar reminded me about those specific needs that i may have taken for granted before. :)
@ nikz: girl, i miss you! having a quick chitchat (you logging on ym while in class! haha!) was definitely not enough! but, i understand, i know someone’s busy with her own love life. =P yeeehee! and did i mention that no evil project was made this year for jr’s birthday? :P haha! we’ve lost our touch, haven’t we? =P hehe!
@ joylet: quality time is GOOD! hehe! it was great seeing you too! you know we missed you. and did i tell you that anj and i were a little surprised to see you there! but then again, we’re somewhat used to seeing you in eggz gatherings. you know you’re part of the group… no matter what. :) will email you the pic when i get them from jr. *hugs* take care!